healing

Whether we experience hypnosis in person or by phone, our spirit guides are with us and lead the way. I have learned that during any hypnosis session, I listen to my guides and yours, who are working together to take you where you need to go for healing, learning and growing.

Having been trained as a teacher, I was expected to write lesson plans ahead of time, although I rarely followed them. I followed the lead of my students and their needs. Probably, our spirit guides were guiding us all the while. Well, the same goes for Past Life Regression Hypnosis. I learned early on in my Regression Hypnosis work that lesson plans ahead of time just do not work! Listening to our spirit guides works! (John Edward writes about this in his most important and profound book, Infinite Quest. Here is the story that taught me this:

An elderly woman had seen me after she viewed me on a television program, Kelly and Company, with my dear friend, mentor and teacher Dr. Brian Weiss. At that time, he was promoting his most wonderful and important book, Many Lives, Many Masters. To save time, he had asked me to conduct Regression Hypnosis sessions a few days before the program aired. These sessions were filmed by the television program crew a few days before Dr. Weiss flew into town to appear on the program. In that way, the TV producers could perform the necessary editing and we would have time during the program on air to interview the people who had volunteered to be hypnotized. I remember feeling so grateful to Dr. Weiss for trusting and having confidence in me to do the actual Regression Hypnosis work.

Past Life Regression Hypnosis guides us and allows us to go back in our memories to the very source of our pain or problem whether it is physical, emotional, mental or psychological. Sometimes the cause of the difficulty we are experiencing is in this lifetime. But very often the source is in another lifetime. Stored in our unconscious minds are all of the memories of all of our lifetimes. The Past Life Regression Hypnosis gives us the ability and chance to access those memories and get to the bottom of our problems so that we can resolve and heal them permanently.

Sixteen Christmases into my second life in this body… those of you who have experienced a significant loss know exactly what that means, don’t you? Those of you who haven’t, well, sorry, but there really is no way to explain it. Anyway, that is what this year is. The sixteenth Christmas without Jason’s physical big footed self lying on our couch. And I am surprised that after this much practice, I can’t seem to find the spirit of Christmas anywhere near our home.

I have the music playing, in our house, in my truck, on the radio, in my head. No tingly chills on the back of my neck though. Not even with the chestnuts song. I made my shopping list, checked it twice, and still no urge to hit the stores and fill the cart. I have watched A Christmas Carol three times already and it is only a week into December. No visions of sugarplums, or cravings for fudge, cookies, or the only once a year divinity. I’ve even decorated, well, sort of . . . some things anyway. Uh-Oh. I think I’ve stumbled upon part of the problem. I have decorated Jason’s grave. I have celebrated Jason’s December birthday. I have lit Jason’s candles at the cemetery, at his park, and at our house. I have planned the Jason part of our Christmas. But there is no tree in our living room and no gifts to be wrapped. I think by doing so much for Jason, I have pushed myself into that pit again. Not entirely over the lip into a free fall, but I’m definitely clamoring for a foothold.

So what gives? What did I do wrong this year? I always include Jason in our holidays. I encourage anyone who has lost someone to do the same. Set a place at the table, light a candle, buy a gift in their name, whatever WORKS. This is nothing new. Or is it? In years past, have I not also taken care of myself? Have I not forced myself to breathe in the cold air when the first snow falls on a dark December night? What about the drives to search for yard displays? What about the daylong search for a perfect tree? And then there were the stockings, and the angels, and the ornaments from Christmases past. This year they’re still in the attic. Instead of pushing me to remember the love, their absence was pulling me into a void where fear of an empty emotionless holiday tugged at my heart. This year, I wasn’t doing what WORKS. I was only doing what I thought I should do.

Over the years that I’ve been practicing as a medium, many people come to my events to hear from a loved one for closure, healing, to say hello, or to say the goodbye that was never said. But many times when I connect to their loved ones on the other side, there are frequently messages asking for forgiveness. They come through loud and clear with messages of love, as well as asking for forgiveness to right a wrong they did while they were here on earth. Whether it’s the abusive father who put his son through so much anguish, the alcoholic mother who locked herself and her feelings away from her daughter, or the non-emotional and distant spouse who wished he’d expressed his love more openly to his wife and children, the variations on this emotional rollercoaster theme are endless.

I’m a great believer in living in the now, and not leaving things unsaid, to only have regrets later. So, usually when the link is finally severed and spirit steps back, I like to end the lecture by asking the audience, “Is there someone here, living, right now in your life that you need to reach out to, connect with and forgive?” I totally appreciate that most of the audience came to that lecture with the hope of hearing from their loved ones who have passed, but part of the message in this edition of Soul Inspirations is about making the effort to re-connect with the people here in your lives if at all possible. Don’t leave things unsaid … if there’s forgiveness to either offer, or receive, then start the process today!

This theme of asking for forgiveness happens quite often during my readings. It’s at that time that I hear stories about how they’ve not uttered a single word to a sibling, parent, or friend for many months or in some cases, even years! It’s often because of something that happened when a person in all their lives passed on. It could be the ring your sister received, the money that should have gone to someone else, the house that was sold without permission, and in some cases, people even don’t remember why they were not speaking because it has been so long.