afterlife

This month, we return to the subject of forgiveness. Most often the most difficult person to forgive is ourselves. We can be our own worst enemy. One very gifted young man said to me the other day, “We are our only enemy.” This seems to hold true especially when we try to or think about forgiving ourselves.

Forgiving ourselves begins with self-acceptance, self-appreciation and self-love. Our love and our worth come from within us from God. Our love and our worth are constant and unconditional. This concept is most important for us to know and to understand, especially those people who have been abused physically, verbally, emotionally or those who have experienced much criticism and/or have been often judged by their parents or guardians during their childhood.

Once we can incorporate this idea and truism into our mind set, we can more readily accept the notion that nobody on this earth is perfect and that we all make mistakes and will continue to do so. Normal, well intentioned people do not purposely make mistakes. So it is most important that we realize that we are doing the best that we can in this life and will strive to continue to learn and grow and to be the best we can be. It is a lifetime process. There is no failure. There are only lessons to learn from our experiences and from our mistakes.

Over the years, I’ve noticed that my clients ask many of the same questions about mediumship, the afterlife and their loved ones in spirit. And some of those questions are not always simple to answer! That’s because it’s a complicated subject but nonetheless, these are things that I’ve reflected on myself. So I thought I would share a few of my own personal insights with you – based on the most commonly asked questions I’ve received during private readings. 

As I share my personal beliefs, I’m also aware that there are many roads which lead to higher wisdom and you may find that you resonate with different concepts or core beliefs based on your own historical conversation. And that’s fine since most things in life are primarily based on our perceptions anyway.  I.e.: Is the glass half full – or half empty?  Of course when it comes to knowing what the afterlife is really like, the truth is that I won’t know for sure until I get there myself!  Meanwhile, here are the top four questions asked and my personal insights.

Q} Is she happy?

A} This is probably the most frequent question I’ve been asked! The simple answer is ‘yes’, I do believe they are happy, but I doubt that is it within the same context that we assess ‘happiness’ here in physical life. 

Think of the vast array of emotions we experience during physical life as ‘tools’. Without these tools, we would not be able to navigate through the drama and role-play of the physical system. ‘Happiness’ is just one of many different emotions, but how would we ever truly understand what happiness is if we didn’t also understand what sadness is?  Our emotions allow us to experience the polarities of life and in order to learn and grow in our experiences, we need a few tools (like emotions) in our toolbox.